Recently we had a debate in our office on marriage. No, no it was not on the usual love marriage vs. arranged marriage, but on whether a marriage is needed or not. Though I am not going to brief the debate, one point struck my logics very badly. A point of argument on the necessity to get married was, "what happens when you fall sick or you get old and are depended". "Who will take care of your day-to-day needs?" Is marriage mainly aimed at that? Doesn't it have something more than that? Mostly weddings have become sort of a business agreement where an MOU is signed but in the marriage register office (fittingly the government has made it compulsory for any marriages to be registered).
According to my knowledge, partnership is the most sweetest part of life. More than the pleasures and services, it is identifying yourself in your loved ones. I have come across partners who may chat all the time when on phone but when they meet they will have nothing to speak but will be happy to rest on each others shoulders and involuntarily doze off. It may look odd, but I strongly feel this reflects the most intimate love than anything else. A peaceful mind and soul goes to rest when it sleeps, which a disturbed or tensed person can never be able to do. There is a sequence in yoga known as Shavasana which aims at emptying the thoughts and resting the body, and it will be noticed during that posture invariably the person who succeeds to perform it with extreme conscientiousness sleeps. I would relate the above happening within the couples to the same effect of Shavasana. It is the intensity of peace that one experience from the other resulting in this.
There is a saying that if one gets the right partner, he/she has the entire world to enjoy whereas if one gets the wrong pair, he/she will lose the right to live his/her own life. The primary reason for failure of any relation is impractically high level of expectations and we call it with a new terminology as possessiveness. Another reason for failure is personal needs and greeds. True love will always be happy only in giving, and less be concerned about personal benefits. The main expectation from the partner will be to see him/her happy. I may sound ideal, but you can check with any pair whom you feel respected for their relation, the above statement will fit perfectly.
Brian Weiss, a well know psychologist, in his book Many Lives, Many Masters elaborates on the existence of Soul Group and Soul Mate that occurs for everyone in every birth. I would advice reading the book to get a clearer picture of the concept. On a short note, the Soul Group is the one that becomes the best friends and the Soul Mate is the one who shares the life. So, even scientifically, for n-number of life spans we have been going through the cycle of sharing our life and it would be ideal to start looking at a higher value than relating it to a servant’s job or a business deal.
In a life that is filled with internal responsibilities and external challenges, we are tormented to the core. But these all end up to be trivial and easy to handle if we look at the highest value of true love. Any business will hit rough weathers if the profit margin is not good and may slide too during the worse-case scenarios. So don't practice business with relationships but rather know its true value and hold it at greater heights. Now there may be complaints that I am not peaceful with my partner, so how am I supposed to hold the relation at a higher level? The answer is quite simple, had we accepted the relations to satisfy our personal benefits and needs and they are done and dealt with, the relationship will start tasting sour because of (if we can call it) the materialistic bubble-burst. Rather, if you were really looking for your true soul mate, then you would be by default experiencing the completeness within you and at peace and harmony with the world.
A journey through long path that has streams that supplies tasty water, entertained by singing birds and beautiful flowers, fed by healthy and tasty fruits, enjoyed by pleasant climate, enveloped by cool and calm atmosphere, towered with a clean sky, basked by mild sun/moon will always be healthy and happy; such is the journey of life with the loved ones, just enjoy it and immerse yourself, you will always enjoy good health, and happiness will always enrich your life.
SATHISH N
According to my knowledge, partnership is the most sweetest part of life. More than the pleasures and services, it is identifying yourself in your loved ones. I have come across partners who may chat all the time when on phone but when they meet they will have nothing to speak but will be happy to rest on each others shoulders and involuntarily doze off. It may look odd, but I strongly feel this reflects the most intimate love than anything else. A peaceful mind and soul goes to rest when it sleeps, which a disturbed or tensed person can never be able to do. There is a sequence in yoga known as Shavasana which aims at emptying the thoughts and resting the body, and it will be noticed during that posture invariably the person who succeeds to perform it with extreme conscientiousness sleeps. I would relate the above happening within the couples to the same effect of Shavasana. It is the intensity of peace that one experience from the other resulting in this.
There is a saying that if one gets the right partner, he/she has the entire world to enjoy whereas if one gets the wrong pair, he/she will lose the right to live his/her own life. The primary reason for failure of any relation is impractically high level of expectations and we call it with a new terminology as possessiveness. Another reason for failure is personal needs and greeds. True love will always be happy only in giving, and less be concerned about personal benefits. The main expectation from the partner will be to see him/her happy. I may sound ideal, but you can check with any pair whom you feel respected for their relation, the above statement will fit perfectly.
Brian Weiss, a well know psychologist, in his book Many Lives, Many Masters elaborates on the existence of Soul Group and Soul Mate that occurs for everyone in every birth. I would advice reading the book to get a clearer picture of the concept. On a short note, the Soul Group is the one that becomes the best friends and the Soul Mate is the one who shares the life. So, even scientifically, for n-number of life spans we have been going through the cycle of sharing our life and it would be ideal to start looking at a higher value than relating it to a servant’s job or a business deal.
In a life that is filled with internal responsibilities and external challenges, we are tormented to the core. But these all end up to be trivial and easy to handle if we look at the highest value of true love. Any business will hit rough weathers if the profit margin is not good and may slide too during the worse-case scenarios. So don't practice business with relationships but rather know its true value and hold it at greater heights. Now there may be complaints that I am not peaceful with my partner, so how am I supposed to hold the relation at a higher level? The answer is quite simple, had we accepted the relations to satisfy our personal benefits and needs and they are done and dealt with, the relationship will start tasting sour because of (if we can call it) the materialistic bubble-burst. Rather, if you were really looking for your true soul mate, then you would be by default experiencing the completeness within you and at peace and harmony with the world.
A journey through long path that has streams that supplies tasty water, entertained by singing birds and beautiful flowers, fed by healthy and tasty fruits, enjoyed by pleasant climate, enveloped by cool and calm atmosphere, towered with a clean sky, basked by mild sun/moon will always be healthy and happy; such is the journey of life with the loved ones, just enjoy it and immerse yourself, you will always enjoy good health, and happiness will always enrich your life.
SATHISH N
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